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Life is Good

Good morning world, it’s another wonderful day on planet earth, at my location the sky is blue the sun is shining and its Friday! I’m listening to a great reggae artist I just recently discovered called Alborosie, on YouTube you can find a great gig which he gave at Rototom Sunsplash Festival in Spain (going there is definitely on the ToDoList, I’ll get back to that later on).

Yes, I am feeling very good about a lot of things. There is always so much stuff to get you down, on a global scale and in your personal life but I try to focus on the positive. I have been trying to tell you more about the small changes I have been trying to make in my life to create positive change.  Positive change in my attitude, in my relationship, in my energy level, in the way I feel about myself.

I earlier posts I have told you about what I have discovered about my own communication skills and how they would get in the way of my happiness. Today I want to tell you more about practical steps I have been taken to feel better. I love the Internet, I use it to look up anything I am interested in and for me the Internet is a great source of knowledge and inspiration.

One of the great tools I have discovered is a research program by a Dutch university; it’s a questionnaire that helps you assess you happiness. It is a free tool that helps you discover which things in your life make you happy and which make you unhappy. You can find more information about it on this page:


This tool helped me to think about the things that really make me happy and relaxed. I made a list of what makes me happy and it inspires me to try and spend more time doing what makes me happy. It was by doing this and really focusing on what makes my happy I discovered that it is really satisfying for me to spent time in the garden, I love to plant plants and flowers and grow vegetables and fruit. And now that I know this makes me happy it seems my mind wants to spent more time thinking about this and out of the blue I get great ideas for my garden and all kind’s of great garden improvements which I can easily realize.

I support the theory of the law of attraction. I’m pretty sure most people know what I am talking about, thanks to movies like the Secret. The basic idea is everything is made of energy, you, me, our thoughts; everything is made out of energy. Energy attracts energy. This means that positive energy attracts positive energy and negative energy attracts negative energy. Sounds simple right. I know I say this a lot, but really it is simple, the difficult thing is to understand it and trying to enable it in your own life.

It is not magic, it is not like when you get mail and there is a bill inside and you put all your thoughts into thinking that is a check inside the mail and abracadabra the bill turns into a check. But having a positive mindset and thinking about getting checks in stead of bills might help assure that the next mail will hold a check inside, while if you keep on thinking this is just the first of many bills to come, many bills is what you will get.

So making up your mind about what makes you happy and focusing on that in a positive way will help you attract the things that make you happy. It will start small, with one positive that happens in your life, this positive happening leads to you being happy and you giving out more positive energy and this will lead to more positive happenings.

It worked for me and it will work for you. Let me tell you about my own situation. Just a two months ago my love and I found ourselves in an acute financial crisis, three of his clients decided not to pay their invoices all at the same time and our bills were piling up to the point that they almost cut of our water and electric. We had so many assets but it was impossible to turn them into money in such a short notice. The car we wanted to sell broke down and every time we fixed one thing some other part of the car broke down.  We had a house on the market and the realtor had called that there were serious buyers, he was already drawing up the documents when they found out they could not get financing. We were totally stressed out and full of negative energy until we said, enough!

We sat down, watched the secret together, analyzed our complete situation, made a step by step plan and we asked for help. We got the help we asked for, and started working hard to accomplish everything we had planned. And little by little the situation started to turn around, the car that for no apparent reason did not want to start anymore out of the blue with no repairs done started again and was sold, the people who wanted to buy the house and who were turned down for financing called that another bank did want to finance them. It felt like this little positive wave had rolled into our lives and it just keep on growing bigger and bigger with positive happenings.

I believe it is not just by thinking that you can make things happen, of course you have to work for it and try and make things happen with a positive attitude. I have known about the law of attraction for a few years but as my example can demonstrate everybody can have a downturn, it is the way you handle it that makes all the difference.

So, accept for dealing with the here and now situations of your life, like solving an immediate financial crisis, I try to use the law of attraction as well to focus on large or long term things I want to accomplish in my life. One example of this is that every start of the year I make a ToDoList with things I want to learn or experience that year and every time I do something that’s on my list I mark it and it fills me with happiness. Going to Rototom Sunsplash Festival is on my list, although I’m won’t be able to go there this year I am sure it will happened next year or the year after so I do not worry if in one year I do not complete my list, the items I did not do just move on to the next year.

I feel there are two things, which are really important for you to be conscious about when you want the law attraction to work for you. The first thing is that you have to be honest, be honest to yourself about what you want.
Being honest to yourself is not easy, ask yourself, what is it I really want? There are so many things that you think you want because other people have them and it makes them happy but that does not mean these things will make you happy. So try and really think about what it is you really want and what will make you ahppy and be honest to yourself about it!

Secondly you have to be grateful for what you already have, try everyday to take a little bit of time and think about everything in your life that makes you happy, these do not need to be material things, it can be friendship, love, the weather, just anything that makes you happy in your life right now and turn these happy feelings into gratefulness. Try and share these feelings of happiness and gratefulness with the universe.

Personally I have always felt this was difficult because what is the universe? How to share something with the universe? But nowadays I just take a moment when I am outside and just stop close my eyes, I smile and feel the sun and the wind on my skin, breathe in deeply and I think about all the great stuff in my life which I am grateful for and when I breath out I imagine all these happy and grateful feelings being carried into the world with my out flowing breath.

I found a little wikihow page that has a little resume of what is explained in the movie the secret: http://www.wikihow.com/Use-the-Law-of-Attraction

Of course this is a good start and once you have started you just try whichever way of working with the law of attraction feels good for you. Keep the positive energy flowing and keep the love growing

Ill try and write a small article about green smoothies for the “relax and have fun” category of this blog, this afternoon, if not Ill be back on Monday. Thanks for being here and letting me share with you, have a great weekend everybody and enjoy!



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Creating change has to be a delight not a burden!

You probably know exactly what you want to change in your life. What you need to do to make everything better. You make resolutions for yourself and start with high spirits, full throttle.

At least that’s the way I tried to create change in my life. It always turned out into a bit of a disappointment.

For example, I’m not content with my figure at this time. I’m not overweight but since last Christmas I have not been able to wear my favorite jeans. These jeans have been my holy grail of waistline size. I know I got heavier because I eat more. Since I’m living together I eat decent meals three times a day, opposed to my living-by-myself cornflakes and Mac n Cheese diet. Secondly I have less time to exercise, well not exactly less time but since I’m together I prefer spending time in bed instead of getting up early to exercise.

So I know what caused my wait gain and have been trying to solve it for quite a while. In the past if I would gain wait I would just pass on lunch and eat something light at dinner. That is not an option now because I really love and appreciate the meals I share with my love, we work full time so spending lunch and dinner together to talk and catch up is really special time. That leaves me with the option that is to try and get more work out time. Luckily my love is very understanding about this.

It is quite hard to pick up any type of exercise after you have not been exercising for a few months. I have never been one for the gym but I used to ride my bike a lot, every Saturday I used to participate in a two-hour capoeira training session, I used to go out and walk and I would swim a few times a week. Due to me getting in a relationship, moving and having more stuff to do every day I just had less time so the Saturday work out I have been skipping that for over a year, no more bike rides, now I just go for a swim in the weekend and I try to squeeze in a yoga session a few times a week.

I love to make lists, I made one for my resolve to loose weight as well (I still have it on my iphone) it looks like this:

New daily schedule – get up at 6.15

45 minute yoga session before work
30 minute swimming pool during lunch
30 minute bike ride after work

I had decided that starting with all three activities at once would probably a little bit too much. So I started with the daily 30-minute swim and a few days a week an evening yoga session.

I kept it up for about two weeks, making sure I swam every lunch break was of course very stressful because I get 90 minute lunch breaks and I have to get home and eat during that time as well. I was not able to swim every day, which made me feel really disappointed with myself, because I felt I had to do it. Since I missed out on a few days the second week I thought I make it up in the weekend and took an extra long practice on Sunday.

When I got up the following Monday morning I was acing all over. The next day I had to stay at home because I could not get up, I had flue symptoms and all my muscles were sore. I spent two days in bed, with enough time to reflect on my exercise plan.  The simple conclusion was that I tried to do too much and I tried too hard.

I decided to take it easy for the remainder of the week and make a new plan, a new start for the next week. I thought about it, and I listed to my body, what does my body need? I work at an office so I sit a lot, almost the whole day. I realized what I missed most is just walking, plain old simple walking. I love swimming and I love riding my bike but if I try and force myself to do it every day I will start to hate it and I will beat up my body because I am not fit enough to do intense exercise every day. I realized I had to start slowly with something I can do everyday, which is good for me, helps me to relax and helps me to build up my condition.

I have been walking every day after work, just walking around the house for as long as I feel like it. I do not need to go anywhere, dress up or get equipment out, I just walk. It relaxes me a lot, I enjoy it, and it helps me reflect about my day. I already feel more energetic and some nights I even squeeze in a yoga session. I am sure that if I am able to keep this up I will start to feel like doing more exercise like going for a bike ride or a long swim.

What I try to explain is that if you want to change something you have to think about it, analyze it and be willing to take small steps at a time. These small steps will make it easier, less scary and more enjoyable.

Change that you want to create has to be a delight not a burden!

You need to reflect about where you want to go, analyze how you feel and what your abilities at this moment are, make a plan (keeping in mind that you are not superman or superwoman) and set your mind to it in a positive way.

Stay positive even if something does not go as planned or if you make a mistake. Do not be harsh on yourself, and do not put yourself down. Listen to yourself, your body and mind will show you what the right speed is. Do not force anything. By going at it this way the change process will be enjoyable and you will feel each time you will be able to accomplish more.

If one day you do not feel like doing what you planned, accept it and reflect on this. If this feeling occurs every day than maybe this was not the right way to create the change you want or maybe you need smaller steps. It sounds like a cliché but I discovered that it really is all in your mind. I’m off for a walk now; I will be back soon with more of my reflections and more about the changes in my life.


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