You probably know exactly what you want to change in your life. What you need to do to make everything better. You make resolutions for yourself and start with high spirits, full throttle.
At least that’s the way I tried to create change in my life. It always turned out into a bit of a disappointment.
For example, I’m not content with my figure at this time. I’m not overweight but since last Christmas I have not been able to wear my favorite jeans. These jeans have been my holy grail of waistline size. I know I got heavier because I eat more. Since I’m living together I eat decent meals three times a day, opposed to my living-by-myself cornflakes and Mac n Cheese diet. Secondly I have less time to exercise, well not exactly less time but since I’m together I prefer spending time in bed instead of getting up early to exercise.
So I know what caused my wait gain and have been trying to solve it for quite a while. In the past if I would gain wait I would just pass on lunch and eat something light at dinner. That is not an option now because I really love and appreciate the meals I share with my love, we work full time so spending lunch and dinner together to talk and catch up is really special time. That leaves me with the option that is to try and get more work out time. Luckily my love is very understanding about this.
It is quite hard to pick up any type of exercise after you have not been exercising for a few months. I have never been one for the gym but I used to ride my bike a lot, every Saturday I used to participate in a two-hour capoeira training session, I used to go out and walk and I would swim a few times a week. Due to me getting in a relationship, moving and having more stuff to do every day I just had less time so the Saturday work out I have been skipping that for over a year, no more bike rides, now I just go for a swim in the weekend and I try to squeeze in a yoga session a few times a week.
I love to make lists, I made one for my resolve to loose weight as well (I still have it on my iphone) it looks like this:
New daily schedule – get up at 6.15
45 minute yoga session before work
30 minute swimming pool during lunch
30 minute bike ride after work
I had decided that starting with all three activities at once would probably a little bit too much. So I started with the daily 30-minute swim and a few days a week an evening yoga session.
I kept it up for about two weeks, making sure I swam every lunch break was of course very stressful because I get 90 minute lunch breaks and I have to get home and eat during that time as well. I was not able to swim every day, which made me feel really disappointed with myself, because I felt I had to do it. Since I missed out on a few days the second week I thought I make it up in the weekend and took an extra long practice on Sunday.
When I got up the following Monday morning I was acing all over. The next day I had to stay at home because I could not get up, I had flue symptoms and all my muscles were sore. I spent two days in bed, with enough time to reflect on my exercise plan. The simple conclusion was that I tried to do too much and I tried too hard.
I decided to take it easy for the remainder of the week and make a new plan, a new start for the next week. I thought about it, and I listed to my body, what does my body need? I work at an office so I sit a lot, almost the whole day. I realized what I missed most is just walking, plain old simple walking. I love swimming and I love riding my bike but if I try and force myself to do it every day I will start to hate it and I will beat up my body because I am not fit enough to do intense exercise every day. I realized I had to start slowly with something I can do everyday, which is good for me, helps me to relax and helps me to build up my condition.
I have been walking every day after work, just walking around the house for as long as I feel like it. I do not need to go anywhere, dress up or get equipment out, I just walk. It relaxes me a lot, I enjoy it, and it helps me reflect about my day. I already feel more energetic and some nights I even squeeze in a yoga session. I am sure that if I am able to keep this up I will start to feel like doing more exercise like going for a bike ride or a long swim.
What I try to explain is that if you want to change something you have to think about it, analyze it and be willing to take small steps at a time. These small steps will make it easier, less scary and more enjoyable.
Change that you want to create has to be a delight not a burden!
You need to reflect about where you want to go, analyze how you feel and what your abilities at this moment are, make a plan (keeping in mind that you are not superman or superwoman) and set your mind to it in a positive way.
Stay positive even if something does not go as planned or if you make a mistake. Do not be harsh on yourself, and do not put yourself down. Listen to yourself, your body and mind will show you what the right speed is. Do not force anything. By going at it this way the change process will be enjoyable and you will feel each time you will be able to accomplish more.
If one day you do not feel like doing what you planned, accept it and reflect on this. If this feeling occurs every day than maybe this was not the right way to create the change you want or maybe you need smaller steps. It sounds like a cliché but I discovered that it really is all in your mind. I’m off for a walk now; I will be back soon with more of my reflections and more about the changes in my life.